Some people describe suffering as the space between reality and expectation. Another way of seeing it is unfulfilled ideals. When we have certain pictures or ideals in mind of how our lives are supposed to look, what we should have accomplished, where we chould have been, and what we should have had, we experience emotional suffering. But what is the root of our suffering?
A woman who wanted children of her own but has to undergo an emergency hysterectomy at a young age and is now unable ,might experience emotional suffering as a result. Is there another way of experiencing that kind of fulfilment and love? Perhaps she could choose to change her ‘picture/vision’ to adopting a child, considering a surrogate, or devoting her life to orphans… other options are still available.
For an aspiring Olympic athlete losing a toe in a climbing accident could mean inability to continue competing and consequent suffering. Unless they change their ‘picture’ to perhaps becoming an Olympic athlete trainer or, or, or… they could endure unnecessary suffering.
Dr Wayne W. Dyer tells us: “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
How might it feel if you were to just loosen your grasp on whatever is the root of your suffering? It actually will really help if you are able to visualize yourself letting go of what you were grasping for and imagine you are freeing yourself from the idea or thought that creates the suffering.
You will find that letting go of even one painful thought makes all the difference. Try to remember that there is always more than one way to reach our destination.
Should you choose to want to work with one of our coaches, we assist our clients in letting go of negative emotions and allow for a deeper understanding whilst creating alternative options to alleviate suffering and live the life of your dreams.
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